Dating vs dating to marry
Since I’m not plugged into a church community or traditional social circle, this means that I’ll be stuck on the more shallow end of relationships with women, an outcome that is not ideal, but one that I’ll accept far more eagerly than using dating as a means to find someone I could be with for the rest of my life.
The difference between girls who are cute and the ones who are hot is simple: Hot women know that they are attractive, and cute girls are just as beautiful but don’t really know it.
Who is going to be a high maintenance in a relationship? They are more demanding, and they value men’s attention less, because they are used to it.
However, for some reason men flock to hot girls, customarily overlooking cute ones.
After absorbing the experiences of hundreds of men (and women), it has become clear to me that dating simply doesn’t work for finding a life partner.
It’s a miracle invention for men who want no-strings attached fun, and I have benefited from it for over 15 years.
If the main photo in her gallery is cute, then she is cute. In real life, if your first encounter with a woman happened when she looked hot, you probably are going to perceive her as confident and self-assured, even though you may see her in a different light afterwards.
By the same token, a woman who was known to you as cute, will rarely break out of this mould, even if you meet her dressed up to nines and looking ravishing.
Before writing off dating completely, we have to first define what a relationship success story looks like.
I’d define it as a marriage that is maintained for at least 25 years and which results in the birth of at least one child, meaning no catastrophic divorce that harms the upbringing of children.