How to go from talking to dating
We all crave regular social interaction; you might be surprised by how easy being good at small talk really is!
Before continuing with this article, please review the preamble included at the beginning of part 1 of this series, "Biblical Dating: How It's Different From Modern Dating." * * * PART 2: Men Initiate, Women Respond » One of the big questions hovering around the topic of courtship and dating is the role of friendship.
So the next time you’re feeling surly and looking for a change, challenge yourself to talk to someone in a more upbeat way and see if that helps shake it off.
I’m not suggesting you bop around like sunshine and fairy dust, but isn’t it powerful to realize that by simply chatting with another person in a positive way, you can walk away from the conversation with both you and them feeling better off?
Good small talk adapts in real-time, thoughtfully and attentively applying to whatever is happening in the moment.
This may sound overwhelming at first, especially if you like to plan things to say out in advance.
If you’re feeling really rusty, give it a shot with a friend or family member and ask for a little feedback afterward.
Engaging in happy small talk isn’t just good for the people we talk to, by the way—it helps us as well.
“Fake it ‘til you make it” is more than just a catchy rhyme.
But this is interesting and novel enough to justify a conversational tangent all its own (and could fall under the category of jobs, if you wanted to add it to your earlier list). Challenge yourself to identify these “one things” (weather, books, back handsprings) as you’re out interacting with people. The dude was thoroughly creeped out, and I couldn’t blame him!
Use the comfort of a prepared line to open with if you like, but with the goal of finding something interesting that’s happening in to comment on. I’ve had to learn to hold back a little (okay, a lot) and not spew forth with every single thing I remember about my last conversation with someone the next time I see them.