When to move on dating
Yet he’s never made anything official, so I know he’s not my boyfriend.But I don’t want to be doing the casual dating thing six months from now—I want a committed relationship with him. My mom says don’t bring it up and just let him take things at his own pace.Find him when he’s in a good mood and seems open to talking.DON’T say anything that resembles “We need to talk.” That puts men on the defensive right away. “You know, I’ve had a great time getting to know you over the last six months, and I really enjoy being with you.My girlfriends say I need to tell him right now that I want the title, or I’m leaving.(They’re all single or divorced, so I don’t know if their advice is any good.) There has to be a better way than either of those, and I’ve already tried telling a previous guy I dated what I wanted, and he walked away. Dear Stacie, Right now, you’re in a pretend relationship… But as you correctly said, he hasn’t made anything official, so you know you’re not his girlfriend. First, I want to congratulate you on your patience and easygoing way.I need an unbiased opinion that I can’t get from family or friends.
I backed off and gave him space since it was me that ended things although a part of me feels as though he walked out before I put it in words.
I felt bad for him and continued to talk with him after his break up. He said didn’t want anything serious, but he asked to hang out the following week.
I was a little dumbfounded, but due to obligations I said no.
Moving from casual to committed should be a win-win for both of you, and when you talk to him, you’ll want to make his win clear to him.
With that out of the way, here’s what you do: You let him know what you’re looking for without making him wrong for not giving you the title.